Verbal aggression of any kind can leave us feeling attacked and judged, sometimes unfairly. It can reduce us temporarily and leave us feeling vulnerable. If you have ever been on the receiving end of an unexpected aggressive outburst you will know it can be very unpleasant. You might come away feeling hurt, shocked and confused. If the person concerned accuses you of something or blames you then, especially if their specific accusations are unfounded, then you will also feel misunderstood and misjudged. Watch video in link below
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If a total stranger came up to us in the street and began being verbally abusive we might be shocked and unsure how to respond but it’s less likely we would feel any kind of responsibility for their behaviour. It would be much easier to separate their unwarranted behaviour from ours. The problem quite clearly would be theirs.This is why it’s so much more difficult to respond to someone we know who attacks us in this way. And it usually is someone we know; whether it be a partner.